How to Get Bullies to Back OffEmpowering Parents to Support Your Child

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According to a recent study, kids with autism spectrum disorder are more than 60 percent more likely to be bullied than other children.1 Bullying occurs in many forms. For example, people can be mean by using hurtful words, pushing, hitting or grabbing others’ belongings. A bully may also purposely leave other children out of a group activity.  

Cyberbullying is another tactic that has become increasingly prevalent. This type of behavior could mean that your child is being bullied on social media, via texts, instant messages or email. 

Why Do Some Kids Bully? 

Some kids repeat actions they’ve witnessed at home, while others may use bullying to get a reaction out of a child who is different or won’t stick up for themselves. This can bring a feeling of power to the bully or give them the attention they want. 

Children who are bullied can feel scared, anxious, embarrassed, depressed and lonely. They may not want to go to school out of fear. When a child is being bullied, it’s important to address the situation as soon as possible and help them block the offender. 

How to Handle Bullies 

If your child is afraid to speak up and defend themselves, there are a few things that could help reduce and hopefully eliminate the bullying: 

  • Be supportive of your child and get the help of a counselor, teacher or another individual who can address the situation, especially when you’re not around. Make sure your child knows it’s not their fault. 
  • You can tell your child to avoid areas where the bully hangs out. Of course, this doesn’t mean skipping school but trying to stay out of the way could help. Kids with ASD like routines, however they may need to mix it up a bit to avoid confrontation.  
  • If a bully says or does something, tell your child to ignore them. Of course, this is easier said than done, so helping your child practice at home in a safe environment may bolster their courage. 
  • Encourage your child to develop friendships. Even one friend can help make a difference. 

Remind your child that they are not alone and encourage them to talk about their feelings. Check out this Bullying Prevention 101 Guide from the PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center  for additional helpful information.